Boy Meets Girl

Ahh…So much to say from the land down under. 288 days on the road, 11 countries, 34 new cities, One girl, one way tickets, the quest of a lifetime. I write this now from the balcony of my lovers house, wearing his heavy black bathrobe because the smell of him makes me feel safe. It is time to revisit the mission, ask myself those questions, What did you learn?, Did you find what you were looking for? Could it be love?

The answers are complicated, like a maze with a new treasure box around each corner. All I know is, I have not one single regret. Soul searching,  growing heaps on the inside, and learning to really love myself,…so yea… I did find what I was looking for. I found me with the clarity I was seeking.

Bali showed me my true spirit. Bali was where the breakthrough happened, where I came back to life. It felt like the gray veil of confusion I was wearing dissolved around me. Seeing with new eyes and a new purpose for a new career, I set off for Australia. All brand new like.

I want to share with you the new way I think now.  I learned this nugget of reality from Danielle Laporte and her #truth bombs. Practicing desire based decision making is simple! Just envision it and ask, “How does this feel in my body?” “Does doing this make me feel the way I most want to feel?”  If the answer is yes, leap with all your might. If not, rest and let it go. This is important because I am still a nomad, but is so doesn’t matter. I am content, what a cool thing to say. I trust the universe.

Before the man scoop everyone is asking me about since the FB announcement, I need to say how grateful I am for the chance to re-bond on this journey with my kids, Mike & Allie, otherwise known as my best works of art. I had the incredible joy of traveling with Allie, my 26 year old, throughout Thailand. Those memories are the definition of priceless, especially when she said it feels like she is the mother and I am the child. Then, off to the Gold Coast of Australia, where Mike, my 28 year old has lived for the past 5 years surfing at every chance. I live with Mike in his tiny studio apartment where the only thing that matters is when we laugh. I couldn’t have made it this far without both your love and support.

Ok, let’s get to business; it shouldn’t be a surprise that I fell for Him. After all, didn’t I just finish staring into my heart in Bali? Didn’t I just say, Destiny, I am ready now?  Here is my truth bomb of boy meets girl, boy and girl fall fast and hard…because, in the words of my new favorite author Laura Jane Williams; “When you know, you know. You know?

Thanks Tinder, but this one lives 90 minutes from my town. What harm is there in a few text messages? We had been messaging for a while and I think it’s time we meet. Hell, I’m good at this by now, no strings, just coffee.

Monday, 1 month ago

me:        So, Ernesto, are you coming to town for the music festival next weekend?

him:       I was thinking about it, I am driving near you now, can you meet for coffee in 20 minutes?

me:        Sure, lets meet at Starbucks, 3:00?

Coincidence he was near my town? C’mon… I knew he was a tall hunky Latino and saw him first, looking the other way, towering over the crowd. But when he turned and smiled, my heart skipped 108 beats. He took my arm all man like and said this coffee is shit, lets get a real coffee. Small talk, small talk, bla bla bla for over 2 hours.  All I wanted to do was to gracefully slide across the table, wrap my arms around his neck and go for the kiss. Wait.. he’s a traveler, loves India and practices yoga too? Recently had his own awakening he says!? C’mon…

Did I mention I could see right through his eyes to his heart and his accent (part Spanish part Aussie) gives me shivers? Damn, it’s time to go, I need to make chicken soup for Mike, seriously. We plan a dinner date for Saturday; he walks me to the corner knowing the kiss is coming. I step up on the curb to meet his eyes and Bam, there it is, like we have kissed a thousand kisses, my knees buckle and I know I’m in big trouble. The best kind of trouble, like when you have a secret kind of trouble.

Friday, 5pm

him:       So why wait until tomorrow, why don’t I pick  you up in 2 hours?

me:        Yes please, can you get here any sooner?

The Saturday night dinner turns into the whole weekend, then the next, and the next, and the one after that.  Here’s the zinger, we’re gonna go for it 100%, yolo, go big or go home, all that shit. We are moving in together and giving it our all. Crazy you might be thinking……perhaps, but think again.

This beauty of a quote came to me from Allie at the most appropriate time:

“Life may break you, nobody can protect you from that and living alone won’t either, for solitude will also break you with its yearning. You have to love. You have to feel. It is the reason you are here on Earth. You are here to risk your heart. You are here to be swallowed up. And when it happens that you are broken or betrayed, or left, or hurt, let yourself sit by the apple tree and listen to the apples falling all around you in heaps, wasting their sweetness. Tell yourself you tasted as many as you could.”..........................................Louise Erdrich.

When I watch the surfers here, I am reminded that they don’t ask if there are sharks in the water, not that they don’t care, it the desire that drives them to chase That Feeling.  They enter the ocean every time with gusto and excitement, full well knowing they don’t know what they will find. Does anyone? I too, choose to enter with them, driven by my desire for truth and love and maybe That Feeling too.

Almost 2 years ago, I made a promise, that I will never ever ever ignore my inner voice. I don’t claim to have all the answers or to even know what I’m doing half the time. But I have learned enough to recognize when destiny intervenes you should read it as an invitation to the best New Year’s Eve party you will ever attend.


Comments ( 6 )

  • Glenda Brody says:

    Debbie this is your most emotional blog! I read it with goosies all over and tears streaming down my face. I am overjoyed for you. I, too, hope that you have found what you have been searching for. Like you said, when you know, you know! I found my soulmate 35 years ago and know what true love is. All I can say is that I wish you the same happiness that I have known for all these years. It gets stronger everyday, and it is a blessing in life to be able to wake up and still love the person next to you. Here's to the first day of the rest of your life. I love you.

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  • ruth drumheler bailey says:

    Debbie, so very happy for you both.. you sound like everything is going well for you my friend. I pray that your heart is full with every thing you need in your life. you have done so much this last year and now you can start enjoy from your life lessons to the fullest... god bless.. I sure have enjoyed all your post......

  • wendy labruzza says:

    love this !!! understand... may you treasure these new moments... you both sound so special..... hugs

  • Jennifer Opsatnick says:

    Wow! You are an amazing person..... I am so proud of you and all your discoveries! What a beautiful journey......looking forward to reading the next chapter. Loves.

  • Ernesto Rivera says:

    Let Me start by saying English is my 2nd Language and for 3 months I've been thinking just about the title and I do have all in my head putting it all into words to make sense is another story. I will say to be continued; because Debbie is the Goddess I've dreamed off all my live and traveled through Oceans of Energy, time and space to Find in the oldest Continent on this planet although We are from the same America's! I say I Do love thee Goddess!

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